I am sorry you are feeling bad. Please move on with your life and leave the JW crap behind. This is what they want, this is the whole purpose of your disfellowshipping. If you move on, make new friends, don't play their game anymore they don't have any power over you. You don't have to allow yourself to be treated poorly, you are choosing it, choosing to subject yourself to the meetings.
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Low Day For Me Today
by pale.emperor inhi guys.
it's been about 4 or 5 weeks since i was disfellowshipped.
so far it's been easy, i enjoyed being left alone, no one bothering me, no one telling me i need to do more, need to reach out, questioning why i didnt go on the ministry, and the fact that my ex-wifes family cant talk to me even if they wanted to.
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JW over-rode our Choice of Funeral music
by snugglebunny ina few years on and the funeral of my jw momma still galls me.
she left instructions for which kingdom songs to be sung and we gladly abided by her wishes.
the funeral was held in a public crematorium, not a kingdom hall.
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It's funny how they can use a "worldly" composers music in their creepy convention videos but regular people can't do the same.
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My Last Study Unit - Sigh!!! - If only I'd studied it 65 years ago
by fulltimestudent insemester 2 commences next monday, and the study unit i'm taking will be my last as a undergraduate.
i've spent 8 years wandering around asian (west and east) history, and i should have graduated a year ago, but mu now has a rule that all ugs must take a two units of study outside their field of study.. so starting monday i will apply my mind to the question implicit in the unit's title: .
why people believe weird things: making rational decision's in an irrational world.. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------.
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That sounds interesting - and you will have a different perspective than your classmates. Good luck and have fun with it!
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If you could speak to your former self, what would you say?
by LoveUniHateExams inif you, knowing ttatt, could go back in time and speak to your former jw self, what would you say to wake yourself up from the wt religion?.
i would speak to my unbaptised publisher self.
at that stage, i believed.
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Just go - leave the JWs- it's all going to be alright - you will figure it out. Just go.....
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Mark Sanderson wears an Apple Watch at regional convention
by Edison Trent inlast weekend was regional convention and mark sanderson was the bethel speaker for the last talks every day.
his talks were video streamed from zurich to other cities in switzerland, austria and germany.
one interesting point was that he wore an apple watch, stainless steel edition (link).
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I don't have a problem with expensive watches and jewelry.........but I don't go around telling a kids to give up their ice cream money.
I-pads are nearly required as JWs now and are quite expensive, my 70+year old parents both have them and have bought them as gifts for their grandchildren, and those aren't cheap either.
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Your opinion about dating sites?
by nevaagain ini have been a jw all my life, while i also have a "spiritual divorce", which means i can remarry a jw again.
i am not sure if i want to go that route again and dating in the jw world feels like a struggle sometimes.
with all the rules.
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Women aren't that complicated 😀
Until you get your head untangled, keep it casual. I found that joining groups where there was a common interest - like community sports leagues were a great place to make new friends and have some fun. Also volunteering - I did work at the animal shelter and found it to be soothing to help something that was more helpless than me. These activities also took up time so I didn't sit around thinking about JW stuff.
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Family
by Stella3 ini posted a month or two ago about my recently disfellowshipped sister who was feeling massive amounts of shame and doubt.
i moved out of my home state 5 years ago so she has come to visit me twice since she has been df'd and she loves it here.
i am a recovered alcoholic (5 years clean and sober) and spend my days with the most amazing non judgmental people i've ever met.
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One of my siblings blames me for their child leaving the JWs when I had no idea the child was even leaning in that direction. The JW mindset is always looking for someone to blame for a persons choice to leave because it couldn't possibly be the batshit crazy religion.
i hope you can keep all of you familial relationships intact.
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Still trying to cope with my new situation (wife woke up, cheated and left)
by nevaagain inas you probably might know already, i already posted some lengthy posts about my situation,here: part 1 and here: part 2 is here.. to make it short, four weeks ago, my wife confessed that she cheated on me and immediately went upstairs to pack and to leave.
this was planned from beforehand because she already managed for an apartment in a different city and a job there.
the next day she sent an email to the elders out confessing of her wrong doings and wishing to get disassociated.. as a reason why she left, she told me, that we should have never married, because we don't fit together.
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Sometimes you are given a gift even though it doesn't feel like it right now. You have the opportunity to explore the person you want to be without a manipulative influence. The fact that she blames you for her actions should be a red flag to you. I hope you find peace and happiness as you move through this. When I left I was told that it was ok to be mad/sad but not to get stuck there, make sure you keep moving forward.
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Racial Insensitivity
by Coded Logic in"blue" lives matter!
- sheriff david clarke at the rnc.
this bs really makes my blood boil.
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Never a JW- I am a white female, who flies to SLC on a regular basis and I have been pulled into the "special room" to be searched and or interrogated three times. I don't think they are profiling me. In fact I travel often and have had that experience in Las Vegas, Baltimore, and Newark in addition to SLC. It's just the luck of the draw sometimes.
As far as the rest of this discussion I agree with Simon this time.
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Elders harassing me
by raven inhi everyone, it has been a while since i've last updated!
(refer to my previous posts for the full story) here is a quick re-cap: 2 months ago my mother found out that i am living with my boyfriend, she told me i was discovered by an "anonymous" tipper who turned me in for "living in sin".. first of all, that is nearly impossible, the congregation i was in is 100's of miles away from where i currently live.. no one would have ever known i was living with my boyfriend unless i told them, which i never did, i cut off all communication with that congregation in part of my attempted fade which was blown into pieces and discovered.. anyways, my mom tells me if i don't go to the elders and confess like a good little sheep, then she is obligated to tell them.. ( don't see why, i don't even live under her roof ) well i never went to them because why should i?
so they met with my mother and she told them i live with my boyfriend... let me remind you, this was two months ago.. i was told i was going to be df'd and that was that.
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Don't feel bad, for a time I had to not tell my family where I lived for the same reasons. We are on good terms now(as good as it can be with the cult involved). But it took a couple of years of reverse shunning to get the point across. You have to protect yourself from the harassment.